We all experience a constant internal monologue. Self-talk is our internal narrative to ourselves. The things we tell ourselves all the time. The words that most highly influence our feelings and actions. To promote #preventivementalhealth, Self-talk has a huge impact on our well-being.
Since the talk is our very own, WE HAVE A CHOICE !
This internal chatter can be supportive, beneficial and motivating or it could be debilitating, pessimistic and self-doubting. We can learn to use
our self-talk to our benefit. All change begins with the realisation that we have the power to transform our life. THE CHOICE IS OURS!
Positive Self-talk can light the “can-do” fire and make radiant the rays of hope. It is an effective empirically tested stress reduction tool, free, very handy and always at our service.
To begin with, next time, when you hear a voice in your head. Ask yourself, “Does it help me or harm me?". Just asking this question is enough to become mindful. It will starve the habits that hurt you and let you choose the life that serves you. Initially, it may be difficult to break the downward spiralling self-talk, but with a little bit of alertness, you will become a pro and enjoy the immense benefits of positive self-talk.
So, when the answer is inclining towards harming you, try these time-tested positive self-talk practices. Try Distanced Self-Talk.
Research posits that distanced self-talk reduces emotional reactivity. Addressing yourself as a third person with your name will create a distance from yourself and promote self-love, acceptance and scope for more rational thoughts. So, Ms. …., why are you sounding so pessimistic? Come on, Mr .... , you can do better!
The proof is in the pudding. Try it! Positive Affirmations
This reminds me of one of my students. Nothing could stop her as she kept telling herself loudly, “I am the best!”, “I can do it!”, “I just love myself”, “ I will not give up” , “This too, shall pass” and much more. This habit of energising self from reaffirming dialog might appear weird to others but would keep her glad and optimistic even during stressful situations. Encourage and listen to your positive voice in your head.
Unconditional Self-Acceptance Can't over stress on this one!
As a general rule, be gentle and encouraging with yourself.
If you cannot be kind with yourself, how can you expect it
from others?
LOVE YOURSELF UNCONDITIONALLY.
Just the way you are. There is only one of you! Kiss And Hug
Yourself every day. Show consideration to self with positive
words and pamper yourself from time to time. Be kind and
considerate to yourself, as you would to others around you.
Self-talk breaks our reflexive habit of leaning on others
during emotional down-time and instead begin to establish
self-reliance and trust in self. It makes us an active
participant
in our own thinking. Practice positive self-talk and enjoy
the rewards.
Remember,
If it is to be, it is up to me!
